Marriage with a new baby

On Friday, we talked about how much marital status changes once you have a baby. I found it really interesting that some couples completely shut off and don't keep their marriage as strong as they first started. I would think that by having a baby it would help the couples pull closer together. I do like the address that Bro. Williams gave about how to keep your marriage strong. First is to keep dating. Its important to let go of your little baby and take care of your spouse. Go out and have fun. I know a lot of women just wish they could have a good excuse to go out of the house. Ever since I was younger I always remember that Friday night is date night. There is no reason to skip it unless we are in the in hospital. Besides that my parents are out of the house.

Another way to keep your relationship together was to be romantic. Have intimacy. Have intimacy sexually and also with intimacy just with socially. Just write each other love notes. Express your love. Another thing you can do is to just love each other and say that you love each other. A last thing to do is to keep each other involve with the baby. Let your husband take turns with playing the baby or holding the baby. Don't let your husband feel left out. Or if you are the husband get involved and ASK the wife to hold the baby or play with the baby. Your wife will absolutely love it! :)

"Preparing for Marriage"

This week in Family Relations we learned about how to prepare for Marriage. I know I'm already married but it was still very interesting to learn about how this still applies to my life. By learning this week I feel like I can help out those who are still struggling with making that wonderful decision on getting married. 

I learned a TON about cohabiting this week. I always wondered why it was such a struggle for those that cohabit to have a successful marriage afterwards. I learned that there are four different types of cohabiting couples but the main thing I learned was that if you start off cohabiting you and your partner are still living two separate lives. That means when you do eventually get married you are sill more likely to fall back into those habits that you have originally started off with and you will struggle with the idea of the whole concept of marriage which is sharing. Once you get married you are striving to be in unison in everything. You have to learn that it is suddenly not your money that you earn anymore but its own money that we earn. I just found it so interesting that you really need to be careful with how you handle your choices now (before you get married). Cause they will make a huge impact later in life. 

Basically get married first then do the hard part of learning to mesh together. (its more fun that way anyways)

Gender Roles

Today in class we had to read from Chapter 3 on Gender Roles. We discussed the different family types. We talked about if we had come from a traditional household or a more shared role. I think typically families are still on a traditional type of family roles because of what we have been taught in the past and what we still believe to be important roles to certain genders. Although there seems especially in the last few years that has been changing. There is more of a call of equality. There are more working mothers and more stay at home fathers. I just find it interesting that maybe our roles that we have known for centuries is suddenly going to take a major shift in the families.

Immigration Families

I have grown up with hispanic and mexican people all of my life. My family had owned a Mexican Restaurants for over 15 years. We were really good friends with people of this culture and what type of lives they have lived. I do believe that we need to be a little bit more caring and helpful to those that are trying to adjust to our country. I feel like we carry waaay too much bias in our daily life. Let us reach out to others. Be slow to judge and be the better person. Treat them like normal people and be more open-minded about the situation that they are in.